As women are poised to inherit the earth, it is probably not the best idea to diss stay-at-home dads. This is an older video of Mark Driscolls (2008) but I think it exemplifies the disconnect between an authentic gospel of grace and Neo-Calvinism’s absolute rigidity when it comes to ideal discipleship.
Yes, it fits within their worldview of strict gender roles and biblical literalism. But it’s still creepy. (h/t Pomomusings / Dazed Dad)
Ridiculous. Two of my thoughts:
- How is your ministry context reaching out to stay-at-home dads who are undoubtedly going to be on the rise in the future?
- How do people take Neo-Calvinism seriously again?
Your thoughts?
(Previous post on Driscoll and Neo-Calvinism)
I got about a minute into the video before I had to shut it off..my head was about to explode. My wife and I both work, and I am the primary child care provider for our 7 mo. old. My daughter comes into work with me two days a week and is at the sitter for two. I get Friday off, so our daughter is home with me. I don’t work at a mega-church making what Driscoll makes, but I know what the cost of childcare is in Seattle (we live just outside of Seattle). The cheapest one we found is $900 a month…that’s $10,800 a year in child care for 1. That gives us a baseline to value a stay-at-home dad’s salary. So the whole argument that they aren’t providing is a load of bunk.
As to your questions/thoughts:
1) Don’t have one…yet. We’re just trying to get men involved at the moment.
2) You assume people took them seriously before. 😉
Thanks for the video. I really enjoyed it. I think you folks are probably like Craig. You did not watch it to the end. I get a kick out of Driscoll. He is continually sticking his foot in his mouth but he knows it. He has two things that appeal to me: A sense of humor and a respect for the Bible as the word of God.
He drives me crazy with his Calvinism while he denies being a Calvinist. He insults many areas of my life as his free-wheeling style flows on. I roll with it because I have a sense of humor and what he says is in tune with the Bible when he isn’t pushing the TULIPs.
I keep visiting this blog because it helps me think. Keep trying.
Grace and Peace
I’ve actually seen this video before and it was a good reminder for me of some of the “stuff” people are hearing out there that the word of God proclaims.
Love how “culture” gets blamed for trying to encourage men to stay home when it was “culture” that influenced the exact scriptures they quote…
1. I was actually shocked at the number of stay at home moms in my current context – the culture I grew up in expected that both parents would work. We don’t currently have any stay at home dads but I know that we would have to completely rethink many of our ministries to young families. MOPS (mothers of pre-schoolers) could not go co-ed. I wonder if an alternative organization will appear for men? Or, if someone will work to create a co-ed one?
2. bwahahaha.
Unfortunately he is ignoring the fact that you can be a man and provide for your family in ways other than simply finances. Many good parents provide for their family, but not necessarily with money.
But stay-at-home dads can do a better job at protecting their kids from bullies and sex predators unlike stay at home moms. You hear of stay-at-home dads beating someone up dangerous or killing them to protect their kid!