I found out today that a friend of mine and fellow grad from BU was found dead in his bed earlier this week.
Very tragic. My heart and prayers go out to his family and friends who are certainly hurting during this time.
In their grief, friends of his have started an interesting phenomenon…they post goodbye messages on his facebook wall. Facebook, of course, will retain wall posts forever, so in effect, these posts are perpetual digital memorials to a man whom Facebook will never be able to set as “deceased.” His last profile picture will stay there forever, his last status update will stay there for a week then reset. And the posts and goodbye messages posted by his friends will continue on his wall as living digital memorials for our lost friend. Perhaps I am being crass in focusing on his friends actions than on my final well-wishes to him. But it is an interesting situation that Facebook puts us in.
So, here I am, looking at his Facebook page, and wanting to say goodbye.
Every time I go to write something on his wall, some message saying goodbye…the words that come are never good enough for eternity.
So I don’t write anything at all.
I don’t think I will.
I can just hope that my friend Alex knows the right words are on my heart.